Today Isabel's comment made us both realize that she will be mourning at the same time she is rejoicing.
"Mama, I like when it's just the three of us."
We have been extremely careful to help Isa process this change, and if you know her, she doesn't have an unspoken thought. That makes things a lot easier. So Luciana asked questions and discussed the new little sister with her. As Isabel thought about it, she realized that it would be like taking some of the other children Luciana has watched out on special events. She said, "well she can't really talk," which made her feel better. (Again, if you know Isa, you realize that sharing the "verbal floor" would be of great concern.) It's bigger... we know. The mourning and rejoicing will go hand in hand for awhile.
So tomorrow Luciana will take Isabel over to the orphanage and have caregivers do the two sisters' hair in the same fancy style before we go off to church. And that will be the begining of our family of four.
Thanks for your prayers. We truly could not do this without them.
Our last photograph as a family of three.
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I love you all.
ReplyDeleteI weep with you and rejoice with you. Thanks you so much for sharing you hopes and fears.
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Even a newborn, full sibling is hard to accept. Trust me, I was on the bad list after giving birth. All family changes take some adjusting...even the good changes. Isa is a strong, loving, kind child who has been raised by two doting parents. She has a huge heart and she will soon learn that sharing love with a sibling doesn't mean getting less love, it means getting more. Give them all a kiss from us!
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